We regret our actions when, in our self-analysis, we know our behaviors did not represent who we believe we are (or can be). The question, then: Will there be a difference, a transition, from what we did . . . to what we can do?
The meeting is over. We said what we said; we did what we did. Our vote has been cast. The decision’s been made. If we feel pain, we fool ourselves by thinking that somehow, it’s others who are to blame. Like it or not, because we’re in the conflict, then we’re a part of it. Each of us plays a role.
The morning after, some won’t care. Some will say we’re not on the same team. But there will be those of us who do. There will be those of us who say, “Okay. That didn’t go the way we thought it could or would. And I’m sorry for my part.”
Then, when we remember it’s not yesterday anymore, we’ll ask: How do we do this thing in front of us together?
