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Photo Credit: scottwills via Compfight cc


I’d rather walk on broken glass with bare feet than work with him. You couldn’t get me to say more than two words to him. He’s impossible.


A short blog won’t cure pain. An invitation to a paradigm shift, however, might advance a more productive approach.


If I think the loser or bad guy on the team is the cause of all the crud in my day (he’s a real “low road” specialist), and I’m not careful when I’m in his presence, my behavior is likely to – you guessed it – mirror his.


I rationalize, “Why would I give him my best effort if he’s not giving me his?”


This is when toxicity accelerates: My behavior then only confirms for him what he’s been thinking: I’m the one who’s pathetic – not him. This evidence allows him to justify his poor behavior towards me.


This, in turn, validates my belief system about him. And the cycle of co-career crudiness continues.


Of course, there may be only one person in this scenario who’s even aware we’re on the ”low road.”  (Which begs a lesson in logic: Why am I attempting to teach him a lesson by modeling what I don’t want him to do to me?)


Suffering a poor relationship with a colleague is a choice. Accountability isn’t easy, but it’s an important step in taking the responsibility we know we must model.


What’s your next move?




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