WHAT APPEARS TO BE
A friend’s not making a New Year’s resolution, because they never work. “Why get yourself excited about changing your life if nothing’s really going to change?”
Does this mean that we can’t take advantage of the turning calendar to raise the quality of our life?
WHAT MIGHT BE
Most resolutions do fail. Here’s the biggest reason why: while working toward an objective the majority of people measure all the places they’re failing. These people keep track of where “they’ve fallen off the wagon”, and the moments they ate the extra cookie. This is a focus that makes them feel like dog do-do.
When you don’t feel good about yourself, when you’re beating yourself up, when you don’t sense forward momentum, how likely is it that your New Year’s resolution will become a reality? Answer: slim and none, and slim’s about to walk out the door.
WHAT CAN BE
To make permanent changes we must feel good about ourselves; we must have momentum on our side. Those individuals who successfully change habits create momentum in their lives. Here’s how to do it.
- They religiously focus on the progress they are making. This builds their confidence.
- They ask questions that move results forward. Instead of “Why can’t I get this right?” they ask, “What can I do better when I’m in the same situation?”
- They tap into their motivation. They have a clear and consistent picture of why something’s important to them.
Achieving your New Year’s resolution is not about fixing yourself. It’s about creating a daily experience where healthy life-choices are easy to make. In 2008, focus on creating forward momentum, and consider that you could achieve more than your New Year’s resolution.
What is the difference between what “might be” and what “can be”? You decide.