If you live in a cave, this blog will be of no value. If you want to improve your effectiveness in business and with your family, then consider the following for an immediate upgrade.

To begin, how effective are you at creating strong and enjoyable relationships with those around you?


Many approach relationships with a “what have you done for me lately?” strategy. Such people strengthen relationships only with people from whom they can get something. Relationships are approached with the 50-50 mentality. Translation: “You’ve got to give your share if you want to get mine.”

This is how I approached my first marriage. And that ended in a divorce. It’s also how I managed my first career. And I got fired.

Enough said.


My friend Randy Ferguson reminds me: “I am 100% responsible for the relationships in my life.”  How dare I tell those I have relationships with that my efforts are conditional? I’m either in or out.

Those who live exceptional lives and climb the ranks of the “achieved” operate with high integrity. As reported in Executive Leadership, Leonard Roberts, CEO of Tandy Corp., says, “You cannot maintain your integrity 90% and be a leader. It’s got to be 100%.”

So as you consider the relationship you have, are you in or are you out?

And as you approach the holiday season and plan your leadership growth in next year, what will be your approach: wait to see who gives you the most expensive present under the tree or give others the gift of the 100% YOU?

What is the difference between what “might be” and what “can be”?  You decide.

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