WHAT APPEARS TO BE
Recently a friend made this discovery: tired of a colleague who was not doing their share of work, my friend found himself complaining about his colleague to the other four people on his team.
“It suddenly occurred to me,” he said, “Every time I talk about the poor performance of my colleague I am broadcasting the very thing that is driving me crazy. I’m not helping the situation. I am making the situation worse.”
WHAT MIGHT BE
How often are we confronted by behavior in others that we find disagreeable? When this happens to the average person they respond by establishing their own radio station. They devote precious hours transmitting the foul message to anyone who will tune into their frequency.
Johnny Cash sang, “Misery loves company.” He was right. Soon, everyone around this person is miserable.
WHAT CAN BE
Leaders who are above average do everything they can to change the behavior. For starters, they don’t broadcast the ugly message. They broadcast messages that will move things forward. They talk about what is important. They talk about why these things are important. They share information on where they see progress. They broadcast what’s possible. They emit hope.
Most of us have one or two people in our lives who are such radio stations, who deliver such messages. We know that when we tune into them, our results and lives are better.
How do people feel when they tune into you? What messages are you broadcasting?
What is the difference between what “might be” and what “can be”? You decide.